Dad is devastated to learn that his wife planned her ‘surprise’ pregnancy to save their broken relationship, as she admits she doesn’t ‘like’ having their son, 3, and never wanted to be a mother
- An anonymous man revealed that his wife got pregnant to save their relationship
- Posted on Reddit explaining that his wife confessed to planning a surprise pregnancy
- The American man said the topic came up when he talked about having more children
- In the comments, the father was urged to divorce and seek custody of their son
One husband has shared how his wife confessed to planning her ‘surprise’ pregnancy that saved their relationship – and later admitted that she doesn’t like being a mother to their three-year-old son.
The 39-year-old, believed to be from the US, did Reddit explaining that he had been in a relationship with his now wife for three years in 2018 when he decided they had to go their separate ways.
He said less than a month after their divorce, his wife contacted him to say she had become pregnant and they agreed to stay together for the sake of their child. Their son was born in 2018 and the couple got married last year.
However, it recently emerged that the seemingly ‘surprising’ pregnancy was a trick by his now wife to keep them together.
An anonymous man, believed to be from the US, has sparked a debate on how to respond to the discovery that your partner got pregnant to save the relationship (file image)
The 39-year-old explained that his wife confessed to lying about her pregnancy when he bought up the opportunity to have more children.
The father found out the truth after starting a conversation about having more children and his wife said she didn’t want more and admitted that she didn’t ‘like’ having their son around.
He explained, ‘He continued,’ After I fired for several days, my wife admitted tonight that she actually planned her pregnancy with our son, but she didn’t want the baby at all, she just wanted me around knew if she was pregnant I wouldn’t break up with her / knew I would get back to her but she just planned it so I would stay with her and she doesn’t really enjoy having him she just wanted to be with me.
‘This really hurt and upset me, and I honestly don’t know how to feel. On the one hand, I feel like everyone has what they wanted, so it’s okay, right? But at the same time, I feel like I’ve been lied to for years AND the fact that my wife admitted not to enjoy our son weighs on my heart.
‘Is it unreasonable for me to feel this way? What would you do if you were in my shoes? I wish I could go back to before I knew this and just live the way it was … but I don’t know if I can now. ‘
Many replies to the post urged the husband to leave his wife and take custody of his son, while others suggested they try to work through their pain with the couple’s therapy.
Many comments to the post urged the husband to divorce his wife and seek full custody of their son as she doesn’t “ like ” having him around
One person wrote: ‘If you make your partner believe that you are using protection when you are not, it is rape through deceit. You consented to protected sex. She lied and the baby set you up, not only you, but your son too for her own selfish reasons. Get this recorded, leave her, and get custody. ‘
Another said: ‘That’s heartbreaking, I’m really sorry. The way you have dealt with things is truly amazing. Personally, I would take my child and be gone and focus all my love and attention on them so they know they have at least one person who loves them unconditionally. I am disgusted with your wife’s behavior. ‘
Others suggested that the man try counseling the couple before deciding to end the relationship.
“Your son is so lucky to have you,” wrote one Redditor. Please be careful how you go about this, if your marriage sour he will get hurt. You two need to go to counseling and find out what you’re doing while he’s with a babysitter or something. If that’s really how she feels, don’t discuss it where he can hear it.
Others suggested that the husband seek advice from his wife before filing for divorce that could affect their child
Even if you think he won’t understand, he’ll remember you’re upset. I have a few things from my childhood that I remember well but didn’t understand for decades until I looked back on them with an adult perspective. ‘
Another suggested, “Please seek advice from both the couple and the individual. From there, you’ll find out whether you want to stay together, break up, or get divorced. Good luck!’
A third added, “Could depression be an influencer here? She may love the child, but she feels very depressed and in a bad place. However, I could be absolutely wrong. I would recommend counseling to both of you, but especially her. ‘
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