A woman who earns significantly less than her husband has expressed her frustration that he expects them to split the expenses equally.
Anonymous posting on Reddit, the American woman explained that her husband has a salary that is $ 100,000 higher than her income and will inherit millions, yet wants bills and luxuries to be split 50/50.
She said her husband declined her suggestion to contribute 80 percent and she 20 percent, because he has worked hard to achieve his financial status.
Responses to the post were divided, with many arguing that everything should be divided equally in marriage, while others said her husband should not be punished for earning more.
An anonymous American woman has sparked a debate about splitting expenses into relationships as she reveals that her husband wants to split the bills even though he earns significantly more (file image)
The woman vented her frustrations and wrote, “We both earn a good salary in the same industry. He works full-time (graduate school) about 10 years longer than I do and earns about $ 100,000 more than I do because of his senior position at the company.
‘We split all holidays, rent, dinners, groceries about 50/50. We spent the same amount on each other for vacations, etc. I was proud because he complained that he had extra weight for his ex who made a lot less than him, and I felt proud that I could pay more for the shared expenses.
‘But recently I proposed splitting bills into%. For example, if we combine incomes and he makes up 80 percent, he covers 80 percent of the expenses and I cover 20 percent. He said this would be unfair because he cut his butt to get his high salary over many years and why should he be punished for earning more?
“ He says he has made sacrifices to save and reach this level of income (even before we were together), and he also doesn’t think it’s fair that he should contribute more than I did because I made my choice to go to high school. going to school and I would earn more if I didn’t.
“He will inherit millions while I will inherit nothing, so I want to save more for my own financial security and peace of mind. I have decent savings (no debt) but still think this would be fairer. He says it’s all “our money” anyway, so why does it matter if it’s in his account or my account – I asked him the same thing? So Reddit what’s fair? ‘
The woman explained that her husband’s salary is $ 100,000 higher than her income and he will inherit millions
A stream of responses to the post agreed that the man should contribute more to cover their expenses.
“The problem with the 50/50 approach is that you never see yourself as a family (or team) – you are always individuals,” one said.
For example, if my husband has been offered a job in another city where he would make $ 50,000 more and I could only get a job there with $ 15,000 less, then I would like to move because it is better for the family as a whole. If you had the same situation, what would you do? You should split up, ‘one wrote.
Another said: ‘You are married, it cannot be split percentages. You own the house I assume and live there as much as a married couple? Something for everyone, but this is bizarre. I would never agree. For context, I make more money than my partner and I go to high school. If / when we get married, we combine our income. ‘
A flood of responses argued that it is unfair to split bills evenly and that finances should not be kept separate in marriage
Others argued that it is unfair for the wife to pay less just because she doesn’t earn as much as her husband.
One person wrote, “He’s right, it is your choice to go to college. Relationship tracking is a funny concept to me. But what do I know ‘
Another said, ’50 / 50 sounds like a fair split. Just because he earns more doesn’t mean you have the right to pay less. If you want your common expenses to have less of an impact on your budget, you need to earn more. ‘
A third suggested a compromise, adding, “I would sit down and tell him I don’t think it’s right that I should pay as much as you without the same pay, and see what compromise we would come up with.
‘If he makes 100,000 more than you, I think he can pay a little more in bills. I wouldn’t push for the whole 80-20 percent, but maybe 40-60 percent or something. Tell him you’re trying to get a good savings account and need the extra wiggle room to do that. ‘
Others felt the pair needed to compromise, but an 80-20 percent split isn’t fair
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